I’m writing this post because I’ve been through the painful period of separation. When the decision to separate is made, let’s face it, we’re a little lost trying to find the words to explain the situation to our children.

Then comes the moment when we start living this new life as separated parents, and here again it’s not easy. A new organization, new habits… I think the key to a “successful separation” is to keep a single objective in mind: the well-being and fulfillment of our child.

As I started to say, the separation of a couple is a complex and painful situation, which can seem insurmountable at first.
However, just like an entrepreneur after a failure, or a sportsman after a defeat, it’s essential to understand that every ordeal, however hard it may be, represents an opportunity to grow and evolve. Even in the face of adversity, it’s important to adopt a positive outlook for a number of reasons.

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry’s phrase in “Le petit Prince” is so apt: There will always be another occasion, another friend, another love, a new force. For every ending there is always a new beginning.

A trial in life that will have meaning in the future

Firstly, separation opens up new perspectives and opportunities for personal development that are often unsuspected. It’s a chance to step back, reflect on oneself, identify one’s values and deepest desires.
It’s a time to rediscover oneself, to resume abandoned projects, or even to embark on new interests and passions. What’s more, this period of transition can serve to build resilience, strengthen coping skills and cultivate new competencies to face future challenges.

The relationship changes, but not our child’s love

Secondly, when a child is born of the relationship, the positive perspective of separation becomes even more important. The end of a story simply means that the nature of the relationship between the parents changes.
Our love for our child, on the other hand, continues to grow. Concern for the child’s well-being must be a unifying factor and a source of motivation to maintain a level of respect and cooperation between parents.
Parents need to ensure a stable, loving environment for their child – it’s probably the only thing that counts.

Our child’s development must be our driving force

Thirdly, in the event of separation, the child’s development must remain the focus of attention. It is possible to transform this difficult situation into an educational and learning opportunity for the child.
By handling the situation with maturity and showing empathy for each other, parents can teach their child valuable lessons about conflict resolution, resilience and adaptability.

The key is to keep a positive outlook for ourselves and our child. In short, even if a couple’s separation is a time of sadness and uncertainty, it’s essential to maintain a positive outlook. Not only for personal well-being, but also for the development and fulfillment of the child born of this relationship.

What’s more, this separation will also bring many opportunities for growth and renewal. By adopting a positive outlook and having the will to move forward, it’s possible to find bright spots even in the darkest moments.

And remember, every trial makes us stronger, wiser and better prepared for the challenges and opportunities that lie ahead.